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Menshouldmarrywhentheyareyoung，andwomenshouldmarrywhentheyareyoung。Thishasbeenanunchangingprinciplesinceancienttimes。Althoughitisnowadvocatedtochangecustomsandengageinnewweddings，paredtothe1960sand1970s，ithasbeemoreluxuriousandthesimplecustomsofpeoplenolongerexist。IamfromZhuzhou，Hunan。LetmetalkabouttheweddingcustomsinZhuzhou。

isitingandEngaging

Matchmakerestoproposemarriage

Whenmenandwomenreachtheageofmarriage，theirparentsfirstfindamatchmaker。Whenthematchmakerdiscoversthatthereissomeoneofappropriateageinthefamily，theyfirstmunicatewiththeirparentsandthenscheduleadatetoarrangeablinddatelocation，usuallyamarketplace。Onthedayofthemarket，boththemanandthewomangotothedesignatedlocation，takealookateachother，sayafewwords，andshowtheircheerfulpersonalityonthespot。Generally，theywillreturnhomeandtalktothematchmaker。Afteragreeing，themanwillchooseadateforengagement（wecallitDingshithere）。Thereisalsoatypethatisfavoredbyoneselforbyparents，suchascousins。Iftheyarerelated，parentswillentrustanacquaintancetoactasamatchmaker。Inthe1960sand1970s，manycousinsgotmarriedinruralareas，andthethirdrepresentativeofsiblingsgettingmarriedwasmore。Thisiscalled"newrelativesgettingmarriedwitholdrelatives"，whichisevenmorejoyful，butthiskindofcloserelativesgettingmarriedisstillnotgood。

Theengagementrequiresfourkindsofgifts，thatis，afewpiecesofcloth。Decentfamilieswillusedacronanddacronfabrics，nylonsocks，andthosewithpooreconomicconditionswillusekhakiclothandcottonsocks。Inthisway，eveniftheengagementissuccessful，themancangotothewomanshomeandsendsomegiftstothewomanshomefortheNewYearholiday。Generally，thefourkindsofgiftsarethesame，namely，theBeginningofSummerFestival，theDragonBoatFestival，theMid-AutumnFestivalandtheSpringFestival。Meat，eggs，noodlesAndapieceoffabric，afterayearortwo，whenbothpartieshavenoobjections，thewomantellsthematchmakerthattheycancuttheshoesample（thatis，themantellsthewomanthesizeoftheshoeswornbyhisfamily）。Themangivesthewomansomemoneyforcuttingthesample，whichwasonlyafewtensofyuanatthattime。Thewomanneedstomakeapairofshoesforeachmemberofthemansfamilyandmatchthemwithhand-embroideredinsoles。

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Preparationbeforeandaftermarriage

Anecessarydowryforwomen

Beforemarriage，themangivesthewomansomemoneytobuyadowry。Dependingonthefamilyseconomicconditions，hecangivethewomanthreetofivethousandyuanatonce，andregardlessofhowmuchmoneyshereceivesfromtheman，thesethingsmustbeallocated。Onelargewardrobeorbinationcabinet，onetable，fourchairs，onebtable，onefoodcabinet，onewashbasinrack，twolargewoodencases，onesmallwoodencaseorleathercase（similartothelargertravelcaseatpresent），twohotwaterbottles，cupsandtoothbrushes，aluminumpotsforboilingwater，pressurecookerandotherdailynecessities，fourquiltsandapairofpillows。Thosewithgoodfamilyconditionswillbeequippedwithamensbicycle，asewingmachine，ablackandwhiteTVset，anelectricfan，etc。Infact，nomatterhowmuchmoneythemangivesthewoman，thewomansparentsbasicallydontusemuchofthemoney，andtheyreturnittotheirdaughtertomakecontainermoney。

Whatthemanmustprepare

Inadditiontogivingthewomanthreeorfivethousandyuan，themanonlyneedstoprepareoneortwonewhousesanddoesntcareaboutanythingelse。Ifthemansfamilyispoorandthereisnodowryforthewoman，thewomanwillalsobringallthedailynecessities。

Onthedaybeforemarriage，themanmustpayagifttothewoman。Thegiftsinclude:halforonepig，chicken，clothesorfabrics，shoesandsocksofthewomansparents，brothersandsisters。Allthingsshouldbeputinplace。Abigrackshouldbeusedtocarrythemtothewoman，sothatthewomansonlookerscanknowwhatsingataglance。Ifthemansfamilyconditionisnotgood，hewillborrowsomethingtoputonittosaveface，Becauseallthethingsthatwentthroughtheceremony，exceptforthefood，returnedtothemanthenextday。

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Thewomanshouldprepareasfollows

Putredpacketsinthequilt，usuallytwopackets，eachofwhichis40centsforthebedmaker。Thebigwoodenboxisfulloffruit，peanuts，sweetpotatochips，eggs，candybiscuits，andclothes，shoesandsockswhenyouseethemansparents，brothersandsistersinthemansside。Inaddition，theparentsalsoneedtogivethedaughtersomeboxmoney（hundredstothousandsdependingontheconditions）。Becauseaftermarryingtheman，themother-in-lawwillopentheboxthenextday，andpeopleinthevillagewillearoundtoseetheexcitement，Thepurposeistoseeifthewomanhasgivenenoughmoneyforthecontainer。

Onthedaybeforemarriage，thewomanwillnotifythemanhowmanypeoplewilletoliftthingsthenextday。Generally，eightormoremenarerequiredbecausethewomanneedstocarryeverythingtotheman，andthemansroomonlyneedstobepreparedwithanemptyhouse。Thenextmorning，aweddingprocessionwasarrangedforthemantogotothewomanshousetoweleher。Themenhadtogo，includingthegroom，twobrides（women），fivetosixgongsandcobaltteams，andpeoplecarryingthings。Theyallwenttothewomanshousetohavebreakfasttogether，blowingandplaying。Afterdinner，thewomansentoffthewedding，withonemanandtwowomenseeingoffthebride。Theprocessioncarryingthingstookastepfirst，andthenthegroomandbridefollowedwithumbrellas。Regardlessoftheweather，eachpersonhadanumbrella，Blowingandbeatingallthewaytothemanforlunch。

Afterdinner，theweddingsceneisalsothemostlivelysceneduringmarriage。Thepurposeistohelpthegroomandbrideeliminatethefeelingofshyness。Variousprogramstrytomaketheirbodyandskincontact，suchasmouthtomoutheatingdates，twopeoplelightingfirecrackers，kittensfishing，andashpicking。Themoretricks，thebetter。Nomatterhowbigorsmall，theycanmakeasmuchnoiseastheywant。Afterthe1980s，thehabitofmakingweddingscenesgraduallychangedtowatchingmovies，videos，andsinging。

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Conclusion:Marriageinthaterawasthesimplest，especiallyforofficeworkersandworkerswhoatethenationalfood，letaloneworryaboutanything。Theyhadfreelove，andwhentheygotmarried，theirunithadashareofthehouse。Theunitleaderswouldpersonallyholdtheweddingfortheyoungcouple，andaftermarriage，theyoungcoupleslowlymadesomefurniture。Unlikenow，housesmustbeboughtbythemselves，andsomepeoplewouldbeepropertyslavesforalifetime。Thaterawastrulysocialist!

Later，withthedevelopmentofsocietyandtheimprovementofmateriallivingstandards，betrothalgiftsemerged，startingwiththreemajoritems:bicycles，watches，andsewingmachines。Later，itdevelopedintofourmajoritems，fivemajoritems，andsoon，untilnow，Iwontsaymuchaboutit。

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